This is completely out of the blue, but I admire you and your blog and believe I can confide in you. I have a question sort of. I am a female. I'm in a relationship with a person that happens to be male (for over a year now). I am pansexual. And I have an overwhelming want to become sexually involved with a female. Any advice to help myself cope with this? Lol
Asked by Anonymous
I can definitely relate to having an overwhelming want to become sexually involved with a female, really complicates life doesn’t it?
I’m very flattered that you hold me in such high-esteem, flattering and of course well deserved as I am a great man. Of course.
I’m very pragmatic, to an almost Vulcan-like extent, so it’s all very simple to me. I would asap tell my happens-to-be-male person that I would want to be sexually involved with a female, because honesty is the best policy. I would not require his permission or approval, I would just be letting him know that these are the facts, and if he’s on board, great, if he is not then he has the option of learning to live with it or dismissing himself. That is just me though. It seems to often be more complicated for others. Humans and their silly emotions. Life is short, if you’re not at all times aiming at what’s going to make you the most happy, even if it involves some risk, than really what is the point? And when it comes to relationships I believe in being as honest and open as possible, and if there is an issue we can either come to a mutually satisfactory resolution or just part ways.
But you know what, as a pretty by-the-book heterosexual guy (or cisgender/cissexual as social justice bloggers would say) who pretty much abides by the rules of monogamy, maybe I’m not the most qualified to deal with the nuances of being a pansexual female? But I DO have a good friend who actually has some experience with this exact same thing, she had a committed boyfriend and was also pursuing female relationships (with his knowledge), and if you want to message me off anon I could introduce you to her and I am 100% sure she’d be willing to talk to you because she literally likes to talk to anyone about anything, she’s the most open person I know. It would probably be more helpful to talk to someone who knows what you’re talking about who you could get more into specifics with and have a back and forth, than me, some dude, speaking in generalities.
Say the word and I’ll figure out how you two could have a correspondence. If you want.