“This dominant narrative surrounding the inevitability of female objectification and victimhood is so powerful that it not only defines our concepts of reality but it even sets the parameters for how we think about entirely fictional worlds, even those taking place in the realms of fantasy and science fiction. It’s so normalized that when these elements are critiqued, the knee-jerk response I hear most often is that if these stories did not include the exploitation of women, then the game worlds would feel too “unrealistic” or “not historically accurate”. What does it say about our culture when games routinely bend or break the laws of physics and no one bats an eye? When dragons, ogres and magic are inserted into historically influenced settings without objection. We are perfectly willing to suspend our disbelief when it comes to multiple lives, superpowers, health regeneration and the ability to carry dozens of weapons and items in a massive invisible backpack. But somehow the idea of a world without sexual violence and exploitation is deemed too strange and too bizarre to be believable.”—Tropes vs Women in Video Games, Women as Background Decoration: Part 2 (via jdisapunk)
i appreciate your concern, but at my college we interact a great deal with autism speaks and support it. you shouldn't focus on what they're doing wrong, because none of it is terrible, but focus on what they are trying to do for people with all different levels of autism.
Things you apparently don’t consider terrible:
Posting a video of a mother talking about how she wanted to kill her child while that same child was in the room listening.
Supporting the eugenic abortion of autistic people.
Failing to condemn the murders of autistic children.
It is terrible, only 3% of their budget goes towards services, there are no autistic people on their board, they literally support eugenics. They are doing absolutely nothing good.
This is widely know withing the autistic community and they are pretty universally hated by autistic people. Because they are terrible. They only even bother pretending to care about little white boys.
If you continue to support them now you are in possession of this information, then it is clear that you are not an ally to autistic people, you don’t want to help us, and are probably just doing your charity work for “oh look at me, I’m a good person” points.
If you support autism speaks, you are not supporting autistic people, you are hurting us. And you are doing it knowingly and consciously.
I messaged this girl on okcupid and she replied “Jeff… your lady is out there. Your photos are wholly confusing, you yourself seem confused, are you? Admittedly you seem like a stand up guy. The gimmicks aren’t necessary. Your personality speaks volumes, your candidness/quietness.”
Haha wow, honestly I wish she would’ve just said I’m ugly or something, because this feels like an indictment of my very being. Now I feel like I should just take a hiatus from romance until I figure out how to seem like a real person.
I’m turning ladies off with my incessant facetious behavior.
Ive been working out pretty regularly for a while, doing the t25 now, and I really like how much better I feel and how my body is starting to look. The other day I flexed my arm in the mirror and was like oh shit that’s a legit muscle! That is a very new thing for me, these are my first ever muscles. One of my favorite parts is when you notice your dumbbells feel too light and you’re like oh snap it worked, lifting these made me stronger and now they’re not heavy! Yay science!
But also, I totally accidentally punched myself in the face doing an exercise the other day, so it has its ups and downs.
I was kidding about that girl being a juggalette, but I only thought to say that because there are actually a lot of them out here in Nevada, it’s scary. Every now and then I’ll see some random person with an ICP tattoo and I’m like *gasp* Must. Not. Make. Eye. Contact.
Have I mentioned that I really love my dog? Cause I do, I love that little dude so much. I know it’s morbid to think about but wtf am I going to do when he’s gone (one day super far into the future)? Hopefully we die at the same time in an explosion that kills us both instantly. I’ve always wanted to go out exploding.
There’s this woman at work, she’s sort of obnoxious and rude and abrasive, and practically everyone dislikes her and talks about her behind her back. She also happens to live a few blocks from me so I’ve ended up walking her home at night or giving her bus fare when she needed it, did I also mention she’s pregnant? She’s pregnant, and it rubs people the wrong way that she’s always trying to use it to get her way, which she does a lot. One day on her way to work she got kicked off the bus for having an expired pass and ended up having to walk like really far in the Las Vegas heat while pregnant. The thing is though that nobody had any sympathy for her because they don’t like her, I was talking to a couple coworkers about it and they thought it was funny, she even tried to text one of them to pick her up and they ignored her. Of course I was like damn that’s messed up, and they’re like oh yeah we forgot you’re like her best friend Jeff, because everybody notices I’m nice to her, and she’s told people about how I walked her home, and the other day I let her borrow my jacket because she sits under an air conditioning vent, stuff like that. They can’t understand why I’m nice to her, and I explained to them that it really has nothing to do with liking her as a person, because frankly I don’t, she gets on my nerves and I think she has no class or manners, haha, but at the same time she’s a human being, I’m not going to not help her just because I don’t like her personality. I’m not going to let a pregnant woman walk home alone past midnight. I’m not going to let her be stranded with no way to get home when I can pay her way on the bus. I definitely wouldn’t have let her walk in the sun for miles if I had a car to give her a ride in. It’s easy to be nice to people because you like them, but there’s no virtue in that, be nice to everyone. She’s not the easiest person to be around, but she’s not mean or spiteful, she’s just an immature 20yr old girl with poor social skills, that’s not cause to take joy in her suffering or not be kind to her. You know what I mean? I don’t agree with everything she does and says, but I’m not going to just completely dehumanize her because she’s flawed.
Who’s worse a pregnant young lady who’s really annoying to be around? Or a person who could care less what happens to an annoying pregnant lady walking home alone at night? I feel like the latter is ethically more of a shitty person.
Maybe because I’m the oldest of four brothers, but when I make friends with younger guys I always feel this big brotherly instinct to like take them under my wing and teach them what little I know about being a decent man and a well rounded person. Like I made friends with this 18yr old guy at work, and he’s a nice kid, but he’s still immature in a lot of the typical ways 18yr old guys generally are. So now it’s become my mission to mold him into a gentleman, is that narcissistic of me to be his self appointed mentor? But I’ve had friends tell me before that they feel like they’ve learned a lot from me or have become a better person, and I’m really proud they feel that way. As a completely perfect man it is just my humble duty to pass on my wisdom to my brethren. It’s the least I can do to make this world a better place. You’re welcome, world.
At some point Carl’s Jr ads are just going to be a naked pornstar fingering herself. They won’t even feel the need to show a burger. “Carl’s Jr, cuz look at dem tits brah!”
But seriously though, even as a straight dude those commercials annoy the fuck out of me, it’s like some ad exec was like fuck it why even be subtle about this shit? Let’s oil up a hot blonde, have her eat one of our burgers (which she would never do in real life) and slow pan over her ass and her glistening wet cleavage, boom, done.
I feel bad about our culture that that’s the state of our culture right now, not only is it obviously misogynist but it’s just fucking stupid. Like I feel like people in positions of influence are too comfortable pandering and don’t even try to be clever or interesting. I guess I’m not even talking about burger ads anymore, but entertainment and advertisement and politics and religion and all of it, we are treated like dumb animals, the best analogy I can think of is like as an adult someone came up and started baby talking to you, that annoying patronizing cutesy voice people use to talk to toddlers, that voice that says hey you’re a dumb little child who doesn’t understand complex ideas so I’m going to dumb myself down so you’re dumb child brain can understand me. That’s how I feel the public is dealt with 24/7. That’s how I feel I’m being talked to when I see a Carl’s Jr ad.
That girl who I’ve been flirting with? Turns out I don’t like her after all. Her personality wasn’t what I expected or hoped for. Kinda disappointing after all that build up, but I’m not too broken up about it because there are like a lot of other hotties at work. So many hotties. Why do so many hotties work in this call center???
When I hear people in happy relationships describe what it feels like to be in love it just reminds me of how I feel about my dog. Oh you feel like you found your other half? Me too! Sometimes you just stare at them and can’t believe how lucky you are to have them in your life? Me too! You miss them every second you’re away from them? Me too! But about my dog! I’m in love with him I guess!
So I heard from a colleague that one of the supervisors didn’t know my name so she referred to me as “the pretty boy with the socks”, I’m not gonna lie, being called pretty sorta made my day, haha. Also I like when people appreciate my fashion acumen, I have become addicted to buying socks, so I’m glad it’s paying off.
Also, my training class officially graduated and we wanted to do something special for our trainer so we made a mock yearbook, and my class voted me as “the coolest”.
I’ve gotta say, I very much like how my office reputation is shaping up. This is all very amusing and validating.
It doesn’t count as bragging if it’s other people saying it right?
Any tips on mustering the confidence to talk to a girl that's a complete stranger and having it not be super awkward? A lot of the times I don't even know where to begin.
Just talk to every stranger. Seriously, if you get yourself to the point where it’s natural and common for you to start up a friendly chat with a random person, then it won’t matter if they’re a pretty lady or handsome man or whatever your preference is. I like to compliment strangers, no matter what their sex, gender or age is, it’s just a nice unexpected thing, especially when it’s genuine and you’re not saying it with ulterior motives. I try to smile and say something to almost everyone I make eye contact with, it puts me in a good friendly mode and warms me up to talk to anyone.
I’m not going to say an attractive person doesn’t make me nervous sometimes but I find if I just say hi it gets the ball rolling. If you’re a guy and you can talk to a woman like she’s just a human being and not like a thing you’re trying to win I find they can be very responsive to that and open and talkative and not scary at all. They’re just people and stuff. So in summation just get comfortable talking to all people from all walks of life and disparate walks of life. Also it helps if you’re funny, smart and handsome like I am, that’s a joke, but like a funny cause it’s true joke. Good luck, was this helpful? The answer is yes, it was very helpful, I’ve set you on the course to success, one day you will look back at this ask as the thing that changed everything for you, you were never the same from this day for- I’m doing that facetious rambling thing again, I need to stop myself now because I can go on like that for several paragraphs.
Went to fyf, it was fucking awesome. Phoenix, blood brothers, haim, blood orange, flying lotus, y mucho mas. Super good, plus just hangin wiv ma bros back in my hometown just felt really good. Also, we randomly saw Brian Lee O’Malley in a bookstore in little Tokyo. My friend got his autograph, I didn’t say anything to him because it just felt too awkward.
Um, about that girl I mentioned a while ago, I talked to her, made my interest known, and surprisingly she was very receptive to my interest, and that’s all I’m going to say about that for now.
I was sitting in the break room at work at a table by myself, and one of the new girls comes and asks if I minded if she sat at my table. There were several other empty tables, and she didn’t have food, so I feel like she just wanted to talk to me, so I talked to her, she was nice, and very pretty. Am I interpreting this situation correctly? Of all the places to sit there were closer places to the door at empty tables if she just wanted a place to sit. I don’t know dudes, I guess I’ll just keep talking to her and see what happens. I don’t want to sound braggy but I’ve been receiving a lot of nice attention lately and it’s making me feel good about myself. It’s a very strange turn of events.
1. So at training today we had to introduce ourselves to a new supervisor and when I said my name she remarked that she always notices me around because I look like I was on the cover of teen vogue, and someone else commented that I look like I used to be a model before I worked there. I struck a pose of course. My ego needed that, I’ve been feeling very unconfident lately so it was nice to get that piece of validation.
2. I talked to that pretty lady again.
3. We took a final test in training that apparently was notoriously hard and I got the highest score. I’m smart as hell y’all.