Pet Peeve Edition!!!
(this is my official pet peeve gif)
I had a disagreement on Facebook earlier. This popular photographer made a post that started off with “What’s happened to women today?” (I’m already rolling my eyes and annoyed at this point) and proceeded to list 20 examples of women who did not want to date him. I don’t remember them all but some of them were like “number 1 started dating a puerto rican rapper”, “number 2 got married and had a baby”, “number 3 I had a crush on in highschool, but now she’s gotten very very ugly”, “number 4 I see in the grocery store and she doesn’t know who I am”, “number 5 only dates guys with nice cars and money”, “number 6 will have sex with me but doesn’t want a relationship”, “number 7 is a lesbian”, “number 8 moved to another country” and so on like this. Maybe like 2 or 3 of the examples were about girls who were allegedly materialistic or some such, but of the examples just seemed like some girls who didn’t want to be his girlfriend. He capped it off with “This has been my experience in LA”.
He had a lot of comments agreeing with him that women in LA are terrible, and I was the lone person to take issue with it and say something to the effect of “It sounds like there’s nothing wrong with women. Something’s wrong with you.” Then after someone else’s comment about not all LA women being “horrible” or having “these kinds of neurosis”, I elaborated that from the examples given these women seemed completely normal.
He responded to me by saying “Haha, I didn’t say in vain that a virtuous woman isn’t hard to find. You’re completely right, these women are normal… but I’m not looking for the norm.” If there’s one thing I hate more than some bullshit, it’s some inconsistent bullshit. He’s trying to say essentially that these women weren’t good enough for him? In his examples the women overwhelmingly are rejecting HIM not the other way around. He’s wanting to have a relationship with them, and they for one reason or another apparently are not reciprocating. So what does their “virtue” have to do with anything? Now that he can’t have them they’re just “the norm”. I wrote a reply essentially giving him the advice that he should perhaps focus on making himself a person worthy of the kind of woman he wants, instead of blaming women on the failure that is love life, but he deleted the post before I could send it, oh well.
So, definite pet peeve: guys who blame the fact that they’re alone on women, like it couldn’t possibly be their own fault they’re alone. Any time I hear someone start off a rant with anything close to “What’s wrong with women?” I’m already like ugh, I don’t need to hear the 2nd part of this, shut the fuck up dude. If a bunch of girls don’t want to be in a relationship with you, maybe consider the possibility that you suck. Just saying. If you’re a nice guy and you’re striking out, it’s possible that you just don’t know what you’re doing. Maybe you’re not not compatible with the people you’ve been meeting and there’s nothing to blame but bad luck or bad timing. Stop being a goddam crybaby and trying to find a scapegoat for your failures and/or inadequacies. It’s not women’s fault. It’s not LA’s fault. Guess whose fault it is?
And thus ends this blog post.